Love Yourself Series - Abby
This is Abby
Bright and beautiful, compassionate and determined - Abby is a busy nursing student at Grant MacEwan University. Completely wise beyond her years, Abby had so much to share with us about self love. With a big heart, she sees self love and the lack there of on a daily basis and has made it a prority to be an advocate for her own self love as well as a role model for others. We had such an incredible session with Abby - belly full of laughs by the end of it!
Why are you passionate about self-love?
Self-love, sadly, is a subject our education systems are now just learning to implement. Our generation and the ones who have come before us seem to lack this fundamental tool in achieving mental wellness. I've become tired of hearing "Tough it out" as my go-to mantra in the back of my mind during difficult moments. Self-love fuels strength, independence and authenticity in a person. Something as easy as learning to supplement the "Tough it out" mantra with a phrase more like "Hey, today has been rough. But you can do this, and if you feel overwhelmed, it's okay to ask for help" can change how you feel about your situation, and shift blame into acceptance.
I'm just beginning my journey as a nurse, and already I've noticed one of the qualities that tends to separate the patients that are on the road to recovery and the ones who will not do well, is self-love. Choosing to meet yourself where you're at, accepting time to rest, making time for people who lift you up, indulging in that full-fat latte, and diving into hobbies that fuel passion all are ways to show yourself some TLC.
What qualities about yourself do you love and appreciate?
This is another reason why I actively have begun to practice self-love, praising yourself in a world that has always supported humbleness can be hard! I actually really like the tender part of myself, that is able to listen and show sympathy. I never have to pretend that I'm interested in someone's story, I genuinely care and want to understand what road has led them here. Another quality that I like about myself I have my parents to thank for, my courage to try new things even when they scare me and/or I'll look silly doing them.
I love that I have grit, and am not easily shaken. Somewhere along the line I was lucky enough to adapt a mindset that is (mostly) able to let go of situations that are not in my control, and bounce back.
What do you do for yourself to recharge and to encourage self-love?
My favourite ways to recharge are talking with friends, going to sleep early, exercising, indulging in something sweet every once and awhile, and listening to music.
What makes you feel beautiful?
This is going to sound kind of strange, but I can't think of a time where I feel more beautiful than when I'm laughing. Sure, it's not always graceful, but I'm always experiencing the moment and enjoying my life when I'm laughing.
What demands in your life hold you back from making time for yourself?
School and work right now in my life are the commitments which require most of my time. Other small duties like commuting and chores eat up a lot of my time as well.
Do you have a favourite quote or a book that encourages you to put yourself first?
One of my favorite works of writing to support self-love my best friend Whitney Boras shared with me:
"If there's one thing that I may tell you
Let it be: You are your own home
Your body is the only house
That you will ever truly own,
Maybe it's got some broken windows
And there are tear-stains on the floors,
Maybe you lock the things you wish weren't
Behind its many doors,
But there is wisdom on its bookshelves
And a laugh to light the rooms,
There's a vase upon the table
Where the love you've grown all blooms,
Dreams sit on the mantelpiece
Next to kindness and your trust,
Where you use them all so often
They have no time to collect dust,
So please don't look at mansions
With that envy in your eyes,
There's more that makes a home
Than it's appearance or its size,
Your body is your shelter
So you deserve to love it all,
Don't let the world stand round outside
And tell you how to paint your walls,
How lucky that you have somewhere
To protect you from the night,
And if there's cracks left from the past?
Well then they just let in more light"
What advice would you give to your younger self?
-Just because that boy doesn't like you back doesn't mean there's something wrong with you
-Don't take yourself so seriously
-There will be times when people in your life don't approve of your choices, that doesn't mean they're bad ones
-Mom is always right
Thank you beyond words for reaching out to do a Love Yourself Session with us Abby!
*Makeup by the extraordinary Miss Chelsea